Mixed Emotions

“For God is not a God of disorder but of peace…” 1 Corinthians 14:33

One of the hardest things to deal with is feeling too many emotions at the same time. Your mind doesn’t know which way to go because you can’t focus with everything coming at you so strongly. But what I think is even harder is when those emotions are conflicting. Love and Hate, Fear and Excitement, Happiness and Hurt. How do they occupy the same space? How do you navigate that? That’s life. For as simple as a feeling can be, the beings that feel them are far from it. The way we feel things has so many moving parts with it that it can be a difficult ocean to navigate. But you CAN navigate it. Emotion regulation is doable if you practice at it. And remember, God doesn’t do anything out of order.

He is the giver of all our emotions, and He gave them with good reason. Everything we feel has meaning and purpose to help us get through our lives and if we’re patient with ourselves (and each other), we can do it! So let me affirm you through this leg of the journey and I know you can conquer those mixed emotions.

Affirmation 1: Everything you feel has purpose in your life. Don’t let anyone tell you how you’re supposed to feel about something. They can say how they expected you to feel but only you get to determine what feelings arise in you. And even then sometimes you don’t have control. You might be triggered by some past event that you didn’t even know you remembered, or maybe an overwhelming sense of peace washes over you when a stressor they thought would irritate you is revealed. Either way, what you feel comes from within you and you honor yourself by just feeling it.

Affirmation 2: Your emotions occupy your headspace for as long as you allow them. You are in control of when and how you respond to things, but feelings don’t go away just because you want them to. Yes, you absolutely can choose not to act on a feeling, but if you don’t address it, it’s going to stick around. Just like any illness, if you don’t take the steps to rectify it’s presence in your body, it’s just going to stay there, lying dormant at times, but ever present. So allow your emotions their processing time so you can effectively move to the next thing.

Affirmation 3: You can be happy, hurt and healing all at the same time. I read this quote and wanted to share it. You CAN be all these things at the same time and it is ok! We take on a multitude of things in our lives, why can’t our emotions be the same? Normalize feeling all the feelings and working through them so it’s a less daunting task for your everyday life.

So, my valued readers, I hope you take this and understand that you’re not broken because you feel everything. And you’re not broken because you want to work through them instead of ignoring them. You’re just being you, just as you are, and I hope you know that it’s enough. I love you, and as always, I’m rooting for you. Keep conquering daily.