I Am Unworried

“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” Matthew 6:34

I don’t have to be stressed by this, so I won’t be.

One of the worst things we can do to our mental health is worry about things we cannot control. Some may not agree with me, but I truly believe this. Think about every situation in your life that has been difficult for you. You experience a loss, a trauma, a challenge. What’s the first thing you think after you’ve been through it? I know what it is for me: how am I going to get over/under/through this? And even if this isn’t where your mind first goes, it gets there not too long afterwards. It’s ok to experience a little worry. That shows concern for the things and people around us. But excessive worry? That leads to undue stress and that’s just unhealthy.

But how? How do you stop the excessive worry? How do you keep from being troubled by the unknown-ness of it all? Or worse, the expected disturbing outcome? You know what I’m talking about. Those repeats of all the times that happened before. The things that have us extra cautious and unwilling to take risks because we “know” what happens next because it happens that way every time. Well I have two things to say to that. Number 1, if the same thing keeps happening and it’s not the desired outcome, maybe you need to take a look at what you’re doing to contribute to that problem. And number 2, if you go into something expecting it to fail, that’s more than likely what’s going to happen. Why? Because your energy is bad and your effort is worse.

Change your mindset, change your outcome.

The scripture says “don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” (Matthew 6:34) and it’s the truth. If you spend today worrying about tomorrow then you’ve got twice as much worry on your hands and twice as much stress. You don’t have to be stressed by something that can’t be dealt with before tomorrow, so don’t. I recently told a friend that it was no sense in preparing for an argument she wasn’t having. What did I mean by that? Basically, let the problem arise before you put more energy than it’s worth into it. That doesn’t mean to not be prepared, but if a problem isn’t growing yet, don’t give it a head start in your mind when you could be focused on other things. So continue to affirm yourself, process your stressors at a reasonable pace and don’t give them more headspace than they require. If you need to talk it through with someone, do that! A trusted friend or therapist can definitely help you work through that. Just keep conquering that Stress everyday. I love you and I’m rooting for you, always.