I AM EXPRESSIVE

“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” Psalm 19:14

No one else gets to decide how I express My emotions.

It’s Memorial Day weekend and I’m especially touched this year. You see the great loss I’ve spoken of these past few months… he was a solider. And no, I didn’t lose him to service. Honestly, he probably would have preferred to go that way, but Memorial Day was always hard for him, as he resonated on the battle buddies he lost in combat. But one of the biggest things we talked about when these holidays, and whenever the anniversaries of their falls came around, was not how much it hurt to remember, but how hard it was to express it, and feel seen, heard and respected. It always made me sad for him. There’s a special kind of pain that comes with feeling silenced.

Have you ever felt silenced? Like what you had to say wasn’t going to be accepted by those around you so you just said nothing? I hate that for you. I hate feeling silenced. Like what I have to say isn’t important or doesn’t matter or is wrong. That happens more often than we think about it when a person is in pain. They are told all the ways they are allowed to express that pain and not to offend anyone with that expression. But we can’t please everyone. And you know how I feel about valuing the emotions of others more than your own. It’s just not healthy. So, in honor of my twin flame, and your right to be expressive, I’m going to affirm you as such.

Affirmation 1: You have the right to express yourself. Be silenced no more. Make your statements with pride and boldness and do not apologize for it. Of course I don’t want you to put yourself in a situation where harm might come to you or your expression causes too much discomfort (let’s be honest, we do have the limits of the law to consider here) but be yourself and don’t apologize for it.

Affirmation 2: How you feel matters, and how you show that matters too. Whether is wearing a t-shirt, or making a Facebook status or just telling someone what you believe in, it matters. It matters to you so it matters. Don’t be silenced because someone disagrees with you. That’s their problem. And the conflict of disagreement doesn’t have to be bad. You might learn something new and you’ll definitely be teaching people about you. So don’t be ashamed.

Affirmation 3: Who you answer to is who’s opinion matters. I only answer to God, so I’m conscious of what He would say and think of my expression. If I am pleasing in His sight, no one else’s opinion matters. “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” (Psalm 19:14) Sometimes He directs us to say things that others need to hear and even if they push against you, they’ll never forget.

Expressions are the script of our memories.

So go forth and be expressive. Stop apologizing for what you feel, how you feel it, and how you show those feelings. Embrace yourself and that expressiveness and let your emotions know you value them. I love you, and as always, I’m rooting for you. Keep conquering daily.