“A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12
I am allowed to connect and accept people into my world on my own terms.
There is so much beauty in connection. When you find a person who thinks like you and values what you value, you don’t feel so alone in the world. I know how important that space is for me, because I feel alone most of the time. It comes from a place of irrational thinking and I battle it constantly, and having friends who remind me of their connection to me help with that a lot. Does that happen to you? Have you ever been dealing with some negative thinking and get a random text or call from someone saying they were thinking of you? Or someone notices you’ve been quiet lately. Or maybe you get a consistent share from a post on your page from a silent supporter. All of this is evidence of connection, of people who share something with you and want to see you succeed.
But there are also bad connections, too, and we’ve all experienced those. People who take more than they give, or constantly put you down. People who always speak negatively about others or the world in general. The worst of these connections are people who treat you poorly and expect you to just take it because of who they are to you. That’s not ok. And if you ever thought it was, I’m challenging that thought right now. When establishing and maintaining connection it’s important that trust be at the forefront of that. The scripture says “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:12) In order to stand back to back with a person, you have to trust that this person will have your back. So let’s affirm and prepare to stand tall in connection.
Affirmation 1: I am Embracing Connection. Let go of the mentality that you HAVE to do it all alone. That’s where the disconnect lies, with you telling yourself that there’s no one else there. Open yourself up to the people who have been vulnerable enough to open themselves up to you and connect. And if you find yourself struggling to make and maintain connection, seek out support from a mental health professional to help you with that. They can give you some very unbiased perspective on how to deal with those concerns.
Affirmation 2: My world, my terms. You don’t have to keep anyone in your circle that you don’t want there. If you don’t feel safe with them, loved by them, valued by them, move them around. It doesn’t matter if they are family, life long friends, coworkers, whoever. Your peace of mind doesn’t get to be disturbed just because people feel entitled to your love. Love is earned.
My faves, (yes, that’s y’all!) I want the best connections for you, the ones that make you feel beautiful and strong and healthy. The ones that make the hard days a little less hard and the good days a little more good. I speak life into your positive connections and exposure into your negative ones so you can identify and purge as needed. And most of all, I pray that you connect with God and let that connection be the strongest and most guiding of them all. I love you, and I’m always rooting for you. Keep conquering daily!
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